The Government Shutdown’s Spirit Animal is a Fox

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Most people in politics seem to spout their own opinions without concern for understanding other people. Further, they want desperately to be understood, but they don’t actually change how they communicate in order to be understood. When they aren’t understood, they simply repeat the exact same thing in the exact same way, implying that the listener was too stupid to understand them the first time.

That is not Fox.

Fear is Fatal—My Father’s Suicide

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My dad spent most of his life following his fear rather than following his heart. When I was growing up, I watched him drag himself—miserable—to work every day. He always told *me* to pick a career I loved. He also told me, “Do as I say, not as I do.” Because what he was modeling was taking a job for money, not for love—caving to the pressures of family and reputation, giving in to society’s definition of success, not his own.

Pittsburgh’s Spirit Animal is a 40-Foot Rubber Duck

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During the month of October, Pittsburgh has the pleasure of hosting artist Florentijn Hofman’s “Rubber Duck.” From the moment of its arrival on September 27th, the 40-foot tall inflatable duck has sparked smiles and inspired joy. It seems no one can resist the happy yellow or the almost Mona Lisa smile of this floating animal totem.

Why Are You Here?

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I see scores of people sharing articles, quotes and Facebook memes reminding you that your purpose for being alive is to serve other people.

The problem

My problem is that it’s not true. At least, it’s not true for everyone.

Fearless

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As human animals, fear is hardwired into our brains. Fear of the unknown, fear of the dark, fear of big snarling carnivores all helped our ancestors survive—and pass on their genes—in the African savannah. Fear of heights, fear of snakes, fear of crowds can all continue to contribute to our survival even today.

6 Tips for Handling Embarrassment

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If you’ve been following my work on the 7 primary fears, you may remember that my primary fear is vulnerability, which translates into the fear of being criticized or ridiculed. When fear of vulnerability is your top primary fear, you end up with plenty of opportunities to make yourself vulnerable, to be criticized and to be ridiculed. It may seem ironic—the thing you most want to avoid is the thing that you attract.

You Don’t Need a Harvard Degree to Write Your Own Ticket

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Harvard degree or no degree at all, you always write your own ticket.

Sadly, my father never realized this truth. If he had, I believe he’d still be here today. You see, my father killed himself because he gave into the misperception that life was happening to him. He had so many regrets about who he could have been and what he could have. Instead of believing that he a choice, he felt overwhelmed by circumstances.